Nollywood actor and filmmaker, Daniel Etim-Effiong, has sparked social media controversy after urging women to help their cheating husbands “Come out of the problem” instead of focusing on themselves.

According to Etim-Effiong, who spoke in a recent interview with media personality, Ife Agoro, cheating should initially be viewed as a personal problem the guilty partner is going through.

He argued that dwelling only on personal pain would not resolve the situation and added that genuine love does not prioritise self-interest.

Speaking further, he said that before addressing the harm to the relationship, the strategy should be to ask the partner, “How can I help you?” in order to help them resolve the issue.

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Agoro disagreed with his stance, noting that the emotional needs of the person who cheated should not be placed above the pain of the betrayed partner.

Etim Effiong said, “So I think your approach first should just be like if someone messes up in a marriage, it should first come from a place of how can I help you, that should be the approach.

“How can I help you out of this problem? It’s first of all, to deal with this problem, you have to come out of the problem that you are in, because it’s a problem.

“Yes. If you cheat on me, you’re in a problem. How can you come out of this problem? How can I help you get out of this thing you’re in and then come so that we can talk about us and we can start healing?

“Why are you solving your problem? Solve his problem. Get him out of the problem. You guys come together, and you deal with your problem together. Love is not self-seeking.

“I know it’s a hard thing to think about. I know. I know it’s hard to think about, but think about it that way. Don’t be self-seeking about it.”