Nigerian singer, politician and pastor, Banky W, has spurred new discussions on social media about marriage duties after disclosing that he cooks the majority of the meals at home while his wife, Nollywood actress Adesua Etomi-Wellington, does not normally cook.
The RnB singer turned politician, and Pastor made this revelation on the Teju Baby Face Show in response to comments made in reponse to a widely shared video of him preparing sausages, eggs, and bacon.
Prior to his response, the video had sparked conflicting views on the internet regarding marital domestic duties.
“There are some men, my wife must cook for me. My wife does not really cook, although she can cook very well, but it’s not her thing.
“See the way God works, right? I enjoy cooking, and I love eating, and she loves eating,” Banky W said.
He further explained that the arrangement in their home was not forced but something that naturally worked for both of them, adding that he actually enjoys being in the kitchen.
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“And it just means that if you come to our house, there are some people who will come and see me cooking, and they’ll be like, ah, what’s going on. It will make some people uncomfortable but it works for us,” he added.
The singer said people often struggle with accepting what does not fit into their personal expectations of marriage, stressing that every home operates differently.
“And I think that’s the thing that people in marriage need to understand, is like what works for you will be different from somebody else,” he said.
“So don’t live your life by somebody else’s expectations or rules,” he added.
Banky W also referenced his wife’s experience during their journey to parenthood, noting that she went through several rounds of IVF and emotional strain while they tried to have a child.
“In our journey to having children, I’ve seen her endure things that would break people,” he said.
“I’ve seen her when we were trying to have Hezekiah, and we were going through IVF cycle after IVF cycle, and it wasn’t working, and she would get back on her feet and inject herself with whatever they said,” he added.
He said those experiences shaped how he now views service and responsibility in marriage, making him more willing to take on tasks without complaint.
“It’s easy to give those acts of service when you have a wife like this,” he said.
Banky W maintained that what matters most is not who does what in a marriage, but whether both partners understand each other and make the arrangement work without outside pressure.
