Nollywood actress Sarah Martins has rejected the traditional expectation that couples need to abstain from s3x until marriage.
In an Instagram video, Martins challenged a popular pastoral analogy that compares men who seek premarital s3x to bicycles while advising women to wait for a Bentley, representing true commitment.
Dismissing the claim, she defined s3xual compatibility as an essential element of informed decision-making before marriage, not a moral lapse.
She described herself as deeply loyal in relationships, fully committed once involved, with no inclination to cheat or play games.
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According to Martins, it makes no sense to enter a lifelong partnership without knowing whether her partner can meet her needs, including s3xually.
Martins dismissed the idea that making a man wait ensures his loyalty or proves a woman’s virtue.
Sarah said: ‘’So a pastor said ‘’any man that asks you to sleep with him before marriage is a bicycle and that we should wait for our Bentley’.
“My question is ‘what if I am the one that is the Bicycle and the man is the Bentley? because I am a girl’s girl, a lover girl, a girl that doesn’t like to cheat on a man. When I am in, I am in. I do not know how to play games. It is me versus my man and I. So why do you think I will blindly enter into a relationship or marriage without confirming the strength of my man or if he is actually a man down there before I finally say I do? Because I do not intend to start sneaking around after being married to my man.
“It is okay for me to get to know this man in and out, s*x inclusive before I finally get to settle down with him.
“My question is ‘what if I am the one that is the Bicycle and the man is the Bentley? because I am a girl’s girl, a lover girl, a girl that doesn’t like to cheat on a man. When I am in, I am in. I do not know how to play games. It is me versus my man and I. So why do you think I will blindly enter into a relationship or marriage without confirming the strength of my man or if he is actually a man down there before I finally say I do? Because I do not intend to start sneaking around after being married to my man.
“It is okay for me to get to know this man in and out, s*x inclusive before I finally get to settle down with him.
“Making a man wait so long doesn’t guarantee a relationship or starving a man does not guarantee you being a good girl”.
